The fundamental difference for me in working with Cornelia Holden versus any psychologist, counselor or guide, was that I was not able, despite my efforts, to shrug off what she had to say as any sort of mysticism. In fact, the more time I spent with her, the more I realized that what she has to offer comes from extensive study in all fields, and more importantly, personal experimentation.
She is able to create an environment where type-A over-achievers (Elite athletes, Ivy League grads or both in the cases of myself and many of my teammates) can find themselves met in intellect. Once you realize this, you stop trying to outthink her, and begin to see and accept the breadth of knowledge she possesses beyond the conventional. Only with someone as erudite and worldly as she is, is it possible for overly analytical minds to let down their guard and permit self-examination to take place.
The basis of her group work also hinges on this premise. She does not allow the group to distract itself from the main purpose of investigation. At the same time, the group is in charge of its own destiny. Her work is entirely coordinated with the day-to-day sentiments of the individuals in assembly, as well as independently.
She does not go into any meeting with a fixed plan, but instead allows the words, spoken or unspoken, and the body language of the group to dictate the direction of the session. The events that take place are a direct reflection of the experiences brought into the room and are fueled by their disinterment. These sessions are seamless, remarkably effective, and grounded on building a foundation of mutual trust and respect.
